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80-531: In 1950s Israel, Nili (Niki in the English-language release) is the new girl at school. She meets a trio of friends: Benzi (Benji in the English release), Momo (Bobby in the English release) and Yudale (Huey in the English release). Benzi, the typical " nice guy " of the group, immediately falls in love with Nili at a Friday night party. However, Nili prefers the more aggressive and experienced Momo. Learning that Nili

160-747: A "real man" as someone who "knows what he wants and knows how to get it", and who is good to the woman he loves. "Jerk Todd" described a "real man" as someone who "knows what he wants and knows how to get it", who keeps everyone else on their toes, and avoids "touch-feely" stuff. "Michael" described a "real man" as relaxed and positive. In two studies, Urbaniak and Kilmann found that women claimed to prefer "Nice Todd" over "Neutral Todd" and "Jerk Todd", relative to "Michael" even at differing levels of physical attractiveness . They found that for purely sexual relationships, "niceness appeared relatively less influential than physical attractiveness". After acknowledging that women's preference for "niceness" could be inflated by

240-614: A 1936 study by Gordon Allport and Henry S. Odbert. Seven years after that study, Raymond Cattell published a cluster analysis of the thousands of personality-related words identified by Allport and Odbert. The clusters identified in this study served as a foundation for Cattell's further attempts to identify fundamental, universal, human personality factors. Cattell eventually determined 16 personality factors (16PF) by means of factor analysis . Further factor analyses revealed five higher-order, or "global", factors that encompass these 16. Although labelled "independence" by Cattell, one of

320-585: A briefer 8-word measure as part of his 40-word mini-markers. Thompson (2008) revised these markers to develop a 40-word measure with better psychometric properties in both American and non-American populations: the International English Mini-Markers. This brief measure has good internal consistency reliabilities and other validity for assessing agreeableness and other five factor personality dimensions, both within and, especially, without American populations. Internal consistency reliability of

400-504: A certain nice guy can contribute to a woman's willingness to pursue a romantic relationship. Researchers have therefore operationalized the "nice guy" and "jerk" constructs in different ways, some of which are outlined below. Various studies explicitly try to elucidate the success, or lack thereof, of "nice guys" with women. Jensen-Campbell et al. (1995) operationalized "niceness" as prosocial behavior , which included agreeableness and altruism . They found that female attraction

480-528: A certain way are more likely to have a romantic or casual sexual relationship with a woman of their choice. According to McDaniel in 2005, popular culture and dating advice "suggest that women claim they want a 'nice guy' because they believe that is what is expected of them when, in reality, they want the so-called 'challenge' that comes with dating a not-so-nice guy". In 2003, Urbaniak & Kilmann wrote: Although women often portray themselves as wanting to date kind, sensitive, and emotionally expressive men,

560-952: A congenial relationship with another person. Agreeableness is positively associated with altruism and helping behaviour. Across situations, people who are high in agreeableness are more likely to report an interest and involvement with helping others. Experiments have shown that most people are likely to help their own kin , and to help when empathy has been aroused. Agreeable people are likely to help even when these conditions are not present. In other words, agreeable people appear to be "traited for helping" and do not need any other motivations. While agreeable individuals are habitually likely to help others, disagreeable people may be more likely to cause harm. Researchers have found that low levels of agreeableness are associated with hostile thoughts and aggression in adolescents, as well as poor social adjustment. People low in agreeableness are also more likely to be prejudiced against stigmatized groups such as

640-537: A direct and honest manner. Low scorers are less direct, tend to be high in self-monitoring , are more reticent. Those who score low on this facet also tend to be high in Machiavellianism , being deceitful or manipulative with others. Straightforwardness is similar to a dimension in the Interpersonal circumplex called "ingenuous versus calculating." According to Michael C. Ashton and Kibeom Lee, straightforwardness

720-426: A distant second in terms of earnings ... yet, seen from the perspective of gender equity, even the nice guys seem to be making out quite well relative to either agreeable or disagreeable women." Sadalla, Kenrick, and Vershure (1985) found that women were sexually attracted to dominance in men, though dominance did not make men likable to women. Dominance in women had no effect on men. This may further suggest that

800-567: A genuine "nice guy" is commonly described as a "jerk", a term for a mean, selfish and uncaring person. A man is labeled a "jerk" on how he treats his partner, seen as the extreme case where he would not have a sensitive or kind side and is seen as a "macho man" and insensitive type. However, the term is also often used sarcastically, particularly in the context of dating, to describe someone who believes himself to possess genuine "nice guy" characteristics, even though he actually does not, and who uses acts of friendship and basic social etiquette with

880-416: A man who views himself as a prototypical "nice guy", but whose "nice deeds" are deemed to be solely motivated by a desire to court women. From said courting, the "nice guy" may hope to form a romantic relationship or may be motivated by a simple desire to increase his sexual activity. The results of failure are often resentment toward women and/or society. The "nice guy" is commonly said to be put by women "into

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960-513: A man's number of sexual partners, and the traits of sensation-seeking , hypermasculinity , physical attractiveness, and testosterone levels. They discovered a correlation between maximum monthly number of partners, and the traits of dominance and psychoticism . Bogaert and Fisher suggest that an underlying construct labelled " disinhibition " could be used to explain most of these differences. They suggest that disinhibition would correlate negatively with "agreeableness" and " conscientiousness " from

1040-768: A pattern of behaviors known as "self-interest" in Adlerian psychology . As a facet of agreeableness, compliance is defined as an individual's typical response to conflict. Those who score high on compliance tend to be meek and mild, and to prefer cooperation or deference as a means of resolving conflict. Low scorers tend to be aggressive, antagonistic, competitive, quarrelsome, and vindictive. While trust, straightforwardness, altruism, and compliance all refer to interpersonal or social behaviors, modesty refers to an individual's self-concept . Those who score high on modesty tend to be humble and other-focused, while low scorers tend to be arrogant, ostentatious, and self-aggrandizing. Low modesty

1120-518: A reboot film, The Party Goes On (Hahagiga Nimshehet), which featured Noy as a restaurant owner, was released in 2001. Hot Bubblegum (Hebrew: Shifshuf Naim ) is the third film in the Lemon Popsicle series, set in Tel Aviv and released in 1981. Benzi now has a girlfriend named Doris, but his feelings are put to the test when an old flame, Nikki comes back into his life. Unknown to Doris and despite

1200-428: A romantic relationship even more. In the study there was no way to directly measure the physical attractiveness of the men with whom they were presented. They only had information with which they could draw conclusions. Because they could not see the men and only had information to use, McDaniel found that this may suggest that women romanticize the idea of a nice/sweet guy, but often do not choose him because in reality he

1280-432: A scene with an older olah named Stella, enticing the three boys into having sex with her, earning the nickname "Stella HaMegameret" ("A-cumming Stella") after she screams "I'm a-cumming! I'm a-cumming!" (instead of "cumming") during sex because of her poor Hebrew . The picture was produced at a budget of IL 3 million, of which a million was paid in royalties to the musicians (mostly American) whose songs were used in

1360-461: A series of matched descriptions where each male was presented in a generous or a control version which differed only in whether the man tended to help others. The author suggests that niceness itself is desirable to women, but tends to be used by men who are less attractive in other domains, and this is what creates the appearance of "nice guys finish last". Judge et al. (2011) concluded that "Nice guys do not necessarily finish last, but they do finish

1440-709: A space shared by agreeableness, honesty-humility, and emotionality: altruism versus antagonism. Agreeableness is an asset in situations that require getting along with others. Compared to disagreeable persons, agreeable individuals display a tendency to perceive others in a more positive light. Because agreeable children are more sensitive to the needs and perspectives of others, they are less likely to suffer from social rejection . Children who are less disruptive, less aggressive, and more skilled at entering play groups are more likely to gain acceptance by their peers. One study found that people high in agreeableness are more emotionally responsive in social situations. This effect

1520-417: A stereotypical "nice guy" vs. a stereotypical "fun/sexy guy", and attempted to make them both sound positive. Questionnaires were offered to a group of women in which they were presented with two scenarios, one involving the nice guy and the other involving the fun/sexy guy. The two variables being measured were the women’s likelihood of picking a nice guy versus a fun/sexy guy, and their reasons for so doing. It

1600-699: A study done by Ahmetoglu and Swami (2012) it was found that women were more sexually attracted to men who had more dominant behaviors compared to men who were more closed off. Herold and Milhausen found in a 1999 study of 165 university women that 56% claimed to agree with the statement: "You may have heard the expression, 'Nice guys finish last.' In terms of dating, and sex, do you think women are less likely to have sex with men who are 'nice' than men who are 'not nice'?" The study also found that "while 'nice guys' may not be competitive in terms of numbers of sexual partners, they tend to be more successful with respect to longer-term, committed relationships." They posit that

1680-548: Is a virgin, Momo brags to his friends that he will seduce, then dump her, much to Benzi's dismay. However, Benzi is too dependent on his friends and too reluctant to ruin their friendship to warn Nili of Momo's intentions, and must watch as Momo and Nili begin dating. Momo finally takes Nili's virginity, leaving her pregnant. Benzi rushes in to emotionally console Nili and helps her to get an abortion, hoping that she will grow to love him for his support, only to be crushed when Nili and Momo reconcile and resume dating. The film contains

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1760-464: Is also said to be coined by American biologist Garrett Hardin , to sum up the selfish gene theory of life and evolution. This was disputed by Richard Dawkins , who wrote the book The Selfish Gene . Dawkins was misinterpreted by many as confirming the "nice guy finishing last" view, but refuted the claims in the BBC documentary Nice Guys Finish First . The "nice guys finish last" view in relationships

1840-400: Is an informal term, commonly used with either a literal or a sarcastic meaning, for a man. In the literal sense, the term describes a man who is agreeable , gentle , compassionat sensitive , and vulnerable . The term is used both positively and negatively. When used positively, and particularly when used as a preference or description by someone else, it is intended to imply a man who puts

1920-431: Is considered to be a superordinate trait, meaning that it is a grouping of personality sub-traits that cluster together statistically. The lower-level traits, or facets that are grouped under agreeableness are: trust , straightforwardness , altruism , compliance , modesty , and tender-mindedness . As is the case with all Big Five personality traits , the roots of the modern concept of agreeableness can be traced to

2000-684: Is important to psychological well-being, predicting mental health, positive affect, and good relations with others. Both childhood and adolescent agreeableness have predictive value. Along with this it has also been implicated to conflict management skills, school adjustment, peer-social status, and self-esteem. Among young adults, individuals that have been diagnosed with externalizing as well as internalizing disorders present lower levels of agreeableness and communion, and higher levels of negative emotionality, than those young adults without such disorders. Disorders such as major depressive disorder negatively correlate to levels of agreeableness. Agreeableness also

2080-472: Is likely to be less attractive than a so-called "jerk". A 2008 study at New Mexico State University in Las Cruces showed that "nice guys" report having significantly fewer sexual partners than "bad boys". Barclay (2010) found that when all other factors are held constant, guys who perform generous acts are rated as more desirable for dates and long-term relationships than non-generous guys. This study used

2160-541: Is not forthcoming, despite their supposed "niceness". More male orientated interpretations claim that the resentment is down to the fact that society, and the vast majority of people in spoken conversation, claim to be attracted to traits such as honesty, integrity and kindness, when in reality more superficial considerations trigger attraction. According to this interpretation, people who display wealth, good looks, dominance, and confidence tend to succeed more in romance than do "nice guys". Nice guys are therefore resentful at

2240-492: Is one of the five major dimensions of personality structure, reflecting individual differences in cooperation and social harmony. People who score quite high on measures of agreeableness are empathetic and altruistic , while those with low agreeableness are prone to selfish , competitive behavior, and a lack of empathy. Those who score low on agreeableness may show dark triad tendencies, such as narcissistic , antisocial , and manipulative behavior. Agreeableness

2320-602: Is otherwise known as conceitedness or narcissism and, in extreme cases, can manifest as narcissistic personality disorder or histrionic personality disorder . Otherwise known as "humility" in the Revised NEO Personality Inventory , modesty resembles the humility aspect of honesty-humility in the HEXACO model . Tender-mindedness is defined as the extent to which an individual's judgments and attitudes are determined by emotion. Coined by William James , this term

2400-466: Is perceived as being passive or unattractive then they will say that he does finish last. Urbaniak and Killman (2003) constructed vignettes of four hypothetical dating show contestants: "Nice Todd" vs. "Neutral Todd" vs. "Jerk Todd" vs. "Michael", who was created to be a control. "Nice Todd" described a "real man" as "in touch with his feelings", kind and attentive, non-macho, and interested in putting his partner's pleasure first. "Neutral Todd" described

2480-810: Is reported anger and depression in young adults. Across adulthood, low agreeableness has been found to be a health risk. High agreeableness, especially trust and honesty, has been linked to longevity. A study done by Caspi, Elder, and Bem (1987) found that explosive and ill-tempered children had higher rates of divorce as adults when compared with their even-tempered peers. Further, ill-tempered men had lower educational attainment, occupational status, and work stability, and ill-tempered women married men with similar low achievement profiles. A second and more recent study by Shiner (2000) found that composite variables describing middle-childhood agreeableness and friendly compliance predicted adolescent academic performance, behavioral conduct, and social competence ten years later. In

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2560-552: Is similar to the honesty aspect of honesty-humility in the HEXACO Model . Similar to altruism in animals and ethical altruism , this facet is defined by measures of selflessness, self-sacrifice, generosity, and consideration, courtesy, and concern for others. Altruism is similar to Alfred Adler 's concept of social interest, which is a tendency to direct one's actions toward the betterment of society. Individuals who score low on altruism tend to be discourteous, selfish, or greedy,

2640-482: Is that " nice guys finish last ". The phrase is based on a quote by Brooklyn Dodgers manager Leo Durocher in 1946, which was then condensed by journalists. The original quote by Durocher was, "The nice guys are all over there, in seventh place" (6 July 1946), when referring to the 1946 New York Giants , who were the Dodger's rivals. The seventh place that Durocher was referring to was actually second-to-last place in

2720-416: Is that there is a discrepancy between women's stated preferences and their actual choices in men. In other words, women say that they want nice guys, but really go for men who are "jerks" or " bad boys " in the end. This may lead to men's discouragement in attempting to have casual sexual relationships with women and also in their pursuit of romantic relationships. Stephan Desrochers claims, in a 1995 article in

2800-472: The Big Five personality model . Botwin, Buss and Shackelford (1997) found that women had a higher preference for surgency and dominance in their mates than men did, in a study of dating couples and newlyweds. Ahmetoglu and Swami (2012) found that men were rated to be more attractive if women perceived them as more dominant, represented in the study by open body posture and gesticulation. A common aphorism

2880-662: The Golden Globe Award for Best Foreign Language Film in the 36th Golden Globe Awards , losing to Ingmar Bergman 's Autumn Sonata . The film was also selected as the Israeli entry for the Best Foreign Language Film at the 51st Academy Awards , but was not accepted as a nominee. The series became a success in Germany under the name Eis am Stiel . Most of the films were also dubbed into English and were released in both

2960-564: The United States and United Kingdom . Since the release of Lemon Popsicle , seven official sequels have been made. These were Going Steady (Yotzim Kavua) (1979), Hot Bubblegum (Shifshuf Naim) (1981), Private Popsicle (Sapiches) (1982), Baby Love (Roman Za'ir) (1984), Up Your Anchor (Harimu Ogen) (1985), Young Love (Ahava Tzeira) (1987) and Summertime Blues (Blues La-Kayitz) (1988). A spin-off film, Private Manoeuvres (Sababa), starring Zachi Noy as Yudale, appeared in 1983, and

3040-588: The United States , people in the West , Midwest , and South tend to have higher average scores on agreeableness than people living in other regions. According to researchers, the top ten most agreeable states are North Dakota , Minnesota , Mississippi , Utah , Wisconsin , Tennessee , North Carolina , Georgia , Oklahoma , and Nebraska . These findings are consistent with well-known expressions in these states, such as " southern hospitality " and " Minnesota nice ." Because these states are generally less urbanized than

3120-460: The friend zone " who do not reciprocate his romantic or sexual interest. These men believe in this motive, because of the societal roles that say women belong to them. A reasoning behind this can be because women are sexualized in video games, television, and movies. Third-wave feminist interpretations tend to see this resentment as being based upon an assumption by men that they are entitled to sex, and are therefore confused when they find that it

3200-407: The incel and red pill movements, part of the anti-feminist manosphere , recruit depressed, frustrated men – who may suffer from "nice guy syndrome" – into the alt-right . Agreeableness Agreeableness is a personality trait referring to individuals that are perceived as kind, sympathetic , cooperative , warm, honest , and considerate. In personality psychology , agreeableness

3280-464: The social desirability bias , especially due to their use of verbal scripts, they conclude that "our overall results did not favor the nice guy stereotype; instead, our results suggested that women’s attitudes (as expressed in previous studies) do, in fact, generally match their behaviors. Niceness was a robust, positive factor in women’s choices of a dating partner and in how desirable they rated Todd." McDaniel (2005) constructed vignettes of dates with

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3360-511: The "nice guy" label: "Some women offered flattering interpretations of the 'nice guy', characterizing him as committed, caring, and respectful of women. Some women, however, emphasized more negative aspects, considering the 'nice guy' to be boring, lacking confidence, and unattractive." The "bad boys" were divided into two categories, "as either confident, attractive, sexy, and exciting or as manipulative, unfaithful, disrespectful of women, and interested only in sex". This distinction helped further

3440-531: The HEXACO model: honesty-humility (i.e., straightforwardness and modesty) and a redefined agreeableness (trust, altruism , compliance, and tender-mindedness). Reflecting this conception of honesty-humility and HEXACO agreeableness as unique though similar concepts, Ashton and Lee propose that they represent different aspects of reciprocal altruism : fairness (honesty-humility) and tolerance (agreeableness). Despite suggesting this reconceptualization of agreeableness for

3520-466: The NEO PI, Ashton and Lee do not believe HEXACO agreeableness is accurately captured by trust, altruism, compliance, and tender-mindedness. In addition to accounting for these four facets of Big Five agreeableness, the HEXACO model's construction of agreeableness includes content categorized under neuroticism in the NEO PI (i.e., temperamentalness and irritability). To reflect the negative emotional content at

3600-409: The NEO PI, Costa and McCrae worked for an additional seven years to identify and elaborate on the facets comprising this factor in the Revised NEO Personality Inventory . In the NEO PI, each of the five factors identified by Costa and McCrae are identified with six lower-level traits. Known as facets , the lower-level traits subsumed by agreeableness were first introduced with the 1992 publication of

3680-463: The National League. Many variants appear in later works, including Durocher's autobiography, Nice Guys Finish Last . The Giants finished the 1946 season in the National League cellar, while Durocher's Dodgers obtained second place. Simplistically, the term "nice guy" could be an adjectival phrase describing what appears to be a friendly, kind, or courteous man. The "nice guys finish last" phrase

3760-403: The acronym "NEO." Due to similarities between their three-factor NEO Personality Inventory and Goldberg's Big Five, Costa and McCrae began to develop scales to assess agreeableness and conscientiousness in the early 1980s. This work culminated in the 1985 publication of the first NEO PI Manual to be based on the full Five Factor Model . Although this marked the introduction of agreeableness to

3840-603: The addition of a sixth factor to the five factor model. Validated with psycholexical studies similar to those used in the development of the five factor model, the HEXACO model adds honesty-humility to five factors resembling those in the NEO PI. Although honesty-humility does not directly correspond to any Big Five trait, it is strongly correlated with the straightforwardness and modesty facets of Big Five agreeableness. As both of these facets are only weakly correlated with Big Five agreeableness, Ashton and Lee suggest dividing NEO PI agreeableness into two factors similar to those in

3920-485: The advice of his friends concerning Nikki's flirtiness, Benzi and Nikki begin dating, but eventually Doris catches them together. Meanwhile, Benzi's sexy cousin Frieda visits from Germany, and Yudale and Momo, as well as Benzi's father, end up lusting over her. In 1982, Davidson wrote and directed an American remake, The Last American Virgin , starring Lawrence Monoson and Diane Franklin . Nice guy " Nice guy "

4000-566: The agreeableness measure for native English-speakers is reported as .86, that for non-native English-speakers is .80. Statement measures tend to comprise more words, and hence consume more research instrument space, than lexical measures. Respondents are asked the extent to which they, for example, [are] on good terms with nearly everyone , [are] not interested in other people's problems or [s]ympathize with others' feelings . Cattell's factor analytic approach , which aimed to identify universal personality structures , inspired many studies in

4080-407: The character trait known as cooperativeness is very similar to and positively correlated with agreeableness. In Zuckerman's alternative five model of personality the trait known as aggression-hostility is inversely related to agreeableness. To address the absence of measures of dark triad traits (i.e., narcissism , machiavellianism , and psychopathy ), Michael Ashton and Kibeom Lee proposed

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4160-563: The construct; examples include "friendly", "good-natured", "cooperative", "trustful", "nurturing", "sociable", and "considerate". Beginning in the 1970s, Paul Costa and Robert McCrae began researching the development of personality assessments based on factor models. Beginning with cluster analyses of Cattell's 16PF, Costa and McCrae initially settled on a three-factor model of personality. These three factors were neuroticism (vs. emotional stability), extraversion (vs. introversion), and openness (vs. closedness) to experience, resulting in

4240-492: The decades following the introduction of the 16PF. Using Cattell's original clusters, the 16PF, and original data, multiple researchers independently developed a five factor model of personality over this period. From the early 1960s on, these explorations typically included a factor called "agreeableness" or "sociability". Despite repeated replications of five stable personality factors following Cattell's pioneering work, this framework only began to dominate personality research in

4320-409: The early 1980s with the work of Lewis Goldberg . Using lexical studies similar to those of Allport and Odbert, Goldberg chose the term "Big Five" to reflect the sheer number of personality-related terms encompassed by each of these five distinct factors. One of these, agreeableness, was defined by a number of personality-related words similar to those present in earlier and more recent manifestations of

4400-625: The east and west coasts, people may be more likely to live in small communities and know their neighbors. Consequently, they may be more willing to care about and help their neighbours. In a study done by Albright et al. (1997) groups of college students from China and the United States rated strangers from both countries on the "Big Five" personality traits, external traits, and how well they were dressed. They found that both Chinese and U.S. students rated faces as showing similar levels of agreeableness and extroversion. The people who were thought to be

4480-454: The extreme. Those scoring low on this facet tend to be cynical and paranoid and view others as suspicious, dishonest, or dangerous. Straightforwardness is the quality of being direct, open, and honest in communicating with others. Despite a long history in moral philosophy , straightforwardness is not as vital to personality theory as the other facets of agreeableness. Those scoring high on straightforwardness tend to interact with others in

4560-594: The fewest and smallest connections with intelligence. However, large-scale meta-analyses have revealed that the aspects of agreeableness (i.e., compassion and politeness) have meaningful and opposite relations with cognitive abilities. For example, compassion correlates .26 with general mental ability whereas politeness correlates -.22 with general science knowledge. Facets of agreeableness also demonstrate some meaningful connections with various cognitive abilities (e.g., cooperation and processing speed correlate .20, modesty and ideational fluency correlate -.17). Agreeableness

4640-440: The global factors identified by the 16PF Questionnaire was an early precursor to the modern concept of agreeableness. Agreeableness in the five factor model of personality is most commonly measured by self-report, although peer-reports and third-party observation can also be used. Self-report measures are either lexical or based on statements . Which measure is used depends on an assessment of psychometric properties and

4720-514: The inconsistency between what people claim to be attracted to and by how they act in reality. At times, these men are also known by the term " white knight ". In early 2002, the web site Heartless Bitches International (HBI) published several "rants" on the concept of the nice guy. The central theme was that a genuinely nice male is desirable, but that many nice guys are insecure men unwilling to articulate their romantic or sexual feelings directly. According to journalist Paris Martineau, in 2018,

4800-599: The journal Sex Roles , that many "sensitive" men, based on their own personal experience, do not believe women actually want "nice guys". Because of this belief, men are less likely to pursue a romantic relationship with a woman if they perceive themselves as nice guys. If they do not believe that women will be sexually or romantically attracted to them, because of their more feminine or "nice" traits, then they will likely be concerned, possibly another trait that leads to women's preference for jerks. In other words, men who are more confident and worry less if they are being perceived

4880-444: The low end of HEXACO agreeableness, this factor is also referred to as "agreeableness (versus anger)." The inclusion of anger in the definition of HEXACO agreeableness further helps to differentiate this factor from honesty-humility. In response to offensive or transgressive actions, individuals who score low on honesty-humility tend not to respond immediately. Instead, they defer their response by planning their revenge and waiting for

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4960-408: The needs of others before his own, avoids confrontations, does favors, provides emotional support , tries to stay out of trouble, and generally acts nicely towards others. In the context of a relationship, it may also refer to traits of honesty, loyalty, romanticism, courtesy, and respect. When used negatively, a nice guy implies a man who is unassertive or otherwise unattractive. The opposite of

5040-404: The nice guy myth is one of sexual preference, and not of dating preference. Women appear in practically all studies to be accepting of romantic relationships with nice guys, but are less likely to consider them casual sexual partners. Bogaert and Fisher (1995) studied the relationships between the personalities of university men and their number of sexual partners. They found a correlation between

5120-547: The nice guy stereotype contends that, when actually presented with a choice between such a 'nice guy' and an unkind, insensitive, emotionally-closed, 'macho man' or 'jerk,' they invariably reject the nice guy in favor of his 'so-called' macho competitor. Another perspective is that women do want "nice guys", at least when they are looking for a romantic relationship. Desrochers (1995) suggests that "it still seems popular to believe that women in contemporary America prefer men who are 'sensitive', or have feminine personality traits". In

5200-486: The overweight. However, high agreeableness does not always lead to prosocial behaviour. In a Milgram experiment , conscientious and agreeable people, when advised by an ill-intending authority, are more willing to administer high-intensity electric shocks to a victim, because conscientious and agreeable people are less capable of resistance. Agreeableness and its related traits have generally been assumed to be uncorrelated with cognitive abilities. In general, it does have

5280-592: The perfect opportunity to enact it. Although those who score low on HEXACO agreeableness also employ this premeditated strategy, they also tend to respond immediately with anger. To help capture the numerous distinctions between the Big Five and HEXACO models, Ashton and Lee propose four new facet labels in their conceptualization of agreeableness: forgiveness, gentleness, flexibility, and patience. In addition to these four Agreeableness-specific facets, Lee and Ashton have proposed an additional "interstitial" facet located in

5360-569: The preferences of women for different types of men are linked to their sociosexual orientation . Further evidence appears in a 2005 study in Prague: "Since women can always get a man for a one-night stand, they gain an advantage if they find partners for child-rearing." ("Biology Letters" Aug 2005 Jan Havlicek ... from article https://www.sfgate.com/opinion/article/Why-women-cheat-Birds-stray-the-nest-and-so-do-2649728.php ) The terms "nice guy" and "nice guy syndrome" can be used sarcastically to describe

5440-513: The previous traits. Participants suggested they wanted more humor, expressiveness and warmth from their partner than is expressed with their friends. Herold and Milhausen (1999) found that women are more likely to report wanting a nice guy but do not choose them in their real dating life. They also found that women perceived nice guys as having less sexual partners in general but perceived them as more eligible for dating. Women claim to prefer to date people who have less sexual experience. A third of

5520-414: The relationship niceness, traits of kindness and warmth stated by women looking for long-term relationships, and less status and physical attractiveness. Sprecher and Regan (2002) found kindness, warmth, expressiveness, openness, and humor as desirable traits of a long-term partner. Social status indicators, such as future earning potential (wealth), were not viewed as more desirable traits when compared to

5600-453: The revised version of the NEO PI. Based on the modern NEO PI-R, the six facets of agreeableness are: trust, straightforwardness, altruism, compliance, modesty, and tender-mindedness. Trust is viewed to be an important feature of psychosocial development, personality theory, and folk psychological conceptions of personality. Individuals who score high on trust generally believe others' intentions to be benevolent and can be naive if taken to

5680-452: The soundtrack (such as Bill Haley , Paul Anka , Little Richard , Frankie Laine , the Chordettes and Bobby Vinton ). Producer Menahem Golan claimed that the music rights cost more than the production of the film itself. Lemon Popsicle became an immediate commercial success; by December 1978, the film had sold 1,268,000 tickets in its native country and grossed IL12.5 million. It

5760-412: The time and space constraints of the research being undertaken. Lexical measures use individual adjectives that reflect agreeableness or disagreeableness traits, such as sympathetic, cooperative, warm, considerate, harsh, unkind, rude. Words representing disagreeableness are reverse coded. Goldberg (1992) developed a 20-word measure as part of his 100-word Big Five markers, and Saucier (1994) developed

5840-418: The ulterior aim of progressing to a romantic or sexual relationship. This is sometimes referred to as "nice guy syndrome", which is used to describe a sense of entitlement to sexual or romantic attention from women simply for being "nice", and irrational anger when that attention is not reciprocated. In their qualitative analysis (1999), Herold and Milhausen found that women associate different qualities with

5920-450: The understanding of why women might prefer "nice guys" or "not-nice guys". Women were asked for their preferences and what values they may look in each relationship, such as attractiveness, and sexual desires in short- and long-term relationships. Nice guys are sometimes suggested to be overbearing or lacking in vision and ambitions; these opinions suggest self-confidence as a key point and area of improvement. Often these ideas and views of

6000-401: The women, however, had reported dating multiple partners that had had more sexual experience than them. There was a dichotomous relationship between a woman’s perception of what a nice guy is and does and whether or not he "finishes last", as the common adage states. If a woman believes that a nice guy is kind and respectful to women then they will say that he does not finish last. If the nice guy

6080-418: Was a result of an interaction of both dominance and prosocial tendency. They suggest that altruism may be attractive to women when it is perceived as a form of agentic behavior. Nice guys are usually seen as twice as attractive as men who present themselves as neutral, and eight times more attractive than the "jerks" in a dating profile. Social dominance enhances female attraction to a male who has shown in

6160-624: Was also prominent in early versions of the 16PF. Tender-mindedness is primarily defined by sympathy and corresponds to the International Personality Item Pool 's "sympathy" scale. In contrast, "tough minded" is a trait associated with Psychoticism on the Eysenck Personality Questionnaire . Models based on psychobiological theories of personality have each incorporated a factor similar to agreeableness. In Cloninger 's Temperament and Character Inventory

6240-501: Was circulated in 700 prints in Europe, where it earned $ 650,000 during the same period. In total, it sold 1,350,000 tickets in the state, becoming the highest-grossing Israeli picture in history. In West Germany, it reached the 11th place at the 1978 box office, with 2.7 million tickets sold. Lemon Popsicle also gained considerable popularity in the rest of Europe and in Japan. It was nominated for

6320-447: Was found that there was a stronger correlation between a woman’s perceived positive traits in the man than in her goals for the dating relationship, both of which were measured in the questionnaire. The two traits that predicted likelihood for wanting to pursue a relationship were physical attractiveness and niceness/sweetness. However, if a man was perceived to be nice/sweet, but was not found physically attractive, it hurt his chances of

6400-823: Was measured on both self-report questionnaires and physiological measures, and offers evidence that extraversion and neuroticism are not the only Big Five personality factors that influence emotion. The effect was especially pronounced among women. Research also shows that people high in agreeableness are more likely to control negative emotions like anger in conflict situations. Those who are high in agreeableness are more likely to use conflict-avoidant tactics when in conflict with others (whereas people low in agreeableness are more likely to use coercive tactics, like stonewalling or shunning ). They are also more willing to give ground to their adversary and may lose arguments with people who are less agreeable. From their perspective, they have not really lost an argument as much as maintained

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